December Blogger Spotlight: Me

Welcome to my series in which I spotlight one of my followers. I’ve always had a deep fascination with people: how they became who they are, the struggles they won, and the hard lessons they learned over time. All of these scars and stories make up a person’s life. While I think it’s important to reflect on your own journey, it is also equally important to hear other voices and see diverse perspectives. In this series, the spotlighted blogger will be able to tell their story through curated questions I’ve asked of them.

Actually, this month’s blogger spotlight will be slightly different. I felt it fitting that the last spotlight of the year should be turned on me. Not for any reason other than all of the previous bloggers that I interviewed were so gracious, open, and honest with their answers that it made me feel like it’s something I could learn from as well. I am keeping my answers as short as possible! Here goes!

A Little About Me…

What do you always have with you no matter where you are?
Something to read. I find it horrifying to be waiting anywhere (even for a second) and not have a book to read. 

What is one thing you do now that you didn’t do 5 years ago?
Parent. I sometimes forget I have to do that!

What would you say you’re good at?
Perpsective. I always see the positive side or silver lining no matter the situation. And the rare times I don’t, I breathe and rely on perspective. This too shall pass. 

What is a common misconception that people have about you?
That I’m unhappy. I can’t tell you how many times strangers (almost always men) have felt the need to tell me to smile (often in rude or condescending ways). 

What do people tell you about yourself regularly that annoys you? Explain.
I’m 5’9 and a half. People often tell me I am tall, which is terrific because if not for other people there to state the obvious, I would be living a life of lies. LIES! Also, people often tell me I should play basketball because I AM SO TALL. I always want to tell them (if they are shorter) they should register for the mini-golf tournament! 

Random Questions…

What is the last thing you lied to your mother about?
That I was busy. I wasn’t busy.

If you could get to know anyone in your life, on a deeper level, who would it be and why?
I would have to say my grandmother and my mom. There’s a lot of history there I have no idea about and I’d love to pick their brains but things are complicated and it’s not so simple to delve into. Also, my husband. I’d like to know him on a deeper level because sometimes he does things like not put things away where they belong, locks the porch door latch and doesn’t pick up his phone, or forgets to bring me things even though I literally asked him two minutes prior and I look at him and wonder, “Seriously, who hurt you and why do you do this?”

What is the best compliment a stranger has ever given you?
Stranger or not, I find it a huge compliment when people think I am funny or I make them laugh. I made my daughter laugh the other day (she was in bed and laughed so hard she threw her head back onto her pillow and could barely compose herself for a couple minutes); it was delicious!

On Life So Far…

What was the worst job you’ve ever had and why? 
I’ve had so many jobs in my life but when I was about 16, I worked as a telemarketer making calls to random households from 5pm to 9pm. Every shift, you would be handed a list of names and numbers to call with a script to speed-read. I always got yelled at, people constantly swore at me over the phone, and a few times they passed me onto their toddler who would talk my ear off for a while. Once, I called a house asking to speak to Jesus. In Canada, we learn French not Spanish and this was before I took Spanish so I was a pretty ignorant kid about different accents and languages in general. I seriously thought someone named their kid after Christ. All I could hear was a heavy sigh on the other end and a click. Oops.

What was your biggest fear growing up and did you overcome it?
Death. And nope, still scared.

What is one thing you want to be better at?
To be less judgmental and to meet people where they’re at (figuratively).

What is the scariest thing that’s happened to you?
One day in my early teens, without any type of warning or explanation, my dad left and never came back. 

What would your younger self not believe about your life today?
That I would be married and have a family of my own. It was always a dream but a dream that always seemed unattainable. My whole life I always felt like the last kid picked to be on a team in gym class or eternally the unlucky girl. 

What did you wish for when you were a kid but in retrospect, glad you never had it?
My family was very poor growing up. We had very little in the way of luxuries and just survived on bare necessities. I wished for a lot of things when I was a kid: I wanted to live in a big house, to sleep in my own room, for my family to be rich, and I wanted an Easy Bake Oven. I also wanted an abundant Christmas, the way my friends often described their holidays after winter break. I never got any of these things and for a long time I resented my parents for it but I know they did the best they could with what they had. Ironically, the one thing I never appreciated when I was younger and often took for granted (and now I thank God every day that I was lucky enough to have in my life) are my sisters.

What life lesson took you the longest to unlearn?
Only you can define for yourself what success and happiness means.

What’s an important lesson you learned in your 20s?
Take up lots of hobbies and save, save, save!

What title would you give this chapter in your life right now?
Chapter 39: It could be worse.

What’s the best advice anyone has ever given you?
One of my first-ever bosses told me (in relation to training), “Don’t just tell people how to do something or what to do, explain to them why they need to do it too.” That’s helped me a lot professionally.

On Writing…

Why do you write? 
To connect and to express myself in written form. I like when people read something of mine and feel like they can totally relate to what I’m saying. I like the art and challenge of forming a sentence to convey feelings that are often difficult to illustrate. 

Do you consider yourself a writer?
I am starting to.

Did you always want to be a writer?
Yes, even though I never thought I was a good storyteller.

Do you have a favourite word?
Livid (sounds satisfyingly angry). Sandrine (a made-up word I use to describe things or people that are wholesome). Sequoia (I just like saying this word). 

What word, in your opinion, gets overused a lot?
I don’t know if this gets overused a lot but I hate the word “alas.”

Do you have to have natural talent to be a writer or do you think all it takes is good practice?
I think you can do many things well with good practice and discipline but I also think you have to love what you do and find passion in it (which often comes from a natural talent you may possess) for your work to shine. Even when you are driven and ambitious about a dream, the bulk of it is finding perseverance to see it through.

What three things do you think help you become a better writer?
Reading, learning, and seeing. You can’t write about that which you don’t know. Read lots of books to open your world, take note of different forms of communication, read other writers’ work (from amateur to professional), and pay attention to the world around you (relationships, landscapes, senses, emotions, nature, etc). 

Thanks for reading! 

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28 thoughts on “December Blogger Spotlight: Me

  1. Unlike you, brevity is not my thing. (Something I’m still working on.) I love that you interviewed yourself. Your answers are refreshingly honest, but I especially enjoy your questions. I’ve noticed this in many of your interviews. You don’t ask the same boring questions that everyone else asks.

    I’d love to comment on many of your answers, but I’ll only mention one. I feel great empathy regarding how hard it must have been growing up with a dad abandoning you. That situation would affect anyone.

    You know by now I’m a big fan of your writing, so I’m glad you are starting to see yourself as a writer. You write about relatable things, such as the challenges of raising a child while still loving her with all your heart.

    Since you had the advantage of writing your own questions, I have to ask you some tough ones. What are your aspirations as a writer? Do you want to write fiction? Genre? Parenting book? For what audience? Newspaper column? I wouldn’t think any less of you if none of these things are on your radar, but I’m curious. You are also witty with a great sense of humor. (I also like it when people tell me I’m funny or have a good sense of humor.) That’s a strength of your writing besides the ever present honesty.

    I made a living out of encouraging students, so this kind of thing comes natural to me, but I’d love to see you follow your heart and chase your dreams. I’m still at the beginning stages, trying to write novels for children. There is so much to learn. It may never happen, but it’s not going to be from lack of trying. I love the challenge, and it’s what gets me excited to get up in the morning.

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    • Thanks Pete, always makes me happy to read your thoughts and comments! I love that you’re asking me questions – I will do my best to reply here and be as honest and clear as possible 🙂

      Aspirations as a writer… someone asked me this once, I had no idea. The fact that I have been blogging CONSISTENTLY for the last two years and have been able to STAY consistent and connect with others has sort of fulfilled a small dream I had long ago so I am not taking that small thing for granted.. I have toyed with the idea of writing a memoir, not to be published because who do I think I am?!?! LOL but more so for Charlotte… I wish I knew my mom and dad more on that level (a different level than the one you’re used to knowing them, such as a parent- I want to know them as individual ppl with their own goals and dreams and wishes, etc. And because I don’t have that, I want to give that window into my life for Charlotte.

      Actually that paragraph seems to answer all the questions you had for me 🙂 Thanks for always being so kind and encouraging, it’s meant so much to me over the years! 💓

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      • Because you’re an intelligent and good person, you’re taking the lessons you’ve learned from your childhood and applying them to your experiences as a parent. Plenty of people write memoirs that aren’t famous. Take this guy, Pete Springer, for example. What did he ever do?😎

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  2. Great idea to interview yourself as a last post for the year… I say this just in case you had second thoughts about it – support and all!

    “One day in my early teens, without any type of warning or explanation, my dad left and never came back.” Heartbreaking. 😦

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  3. Oh I love this post! It made me laugh, but it also made me sigh…..
    I think you know yourself well.
    I can relate to the heightism jokes but from the other end of the spectrum as I am very short (4’8”). They are so predictable and boring aren’t they?

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    • Thank you, another compliment I love getting is people saying I know myself well because that’s something I actually actively work on… self-reflection and taking responsbility for my own actions… what do people say to you that annoys you (re: your height) or do you not get those?

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  4. It’s been bugging me that I hadn’t gotten to this post yet. Literally lying in bed last night thinking, I still have to read BB’s December spotlight post! It was in my inbox but got buried. Anyhow! So much to love here as well as commiserate. I can feel the annoyance of being told by bastardly men to smile or that you’re tall and should play basketball. Like, wow! These people are such geniuses to make that observation!
    Your dad left. Gosh. Owie. How was your mom after that? Was she crushed, or more like, good riddance? I can feel the love you have for your sisters, and it’s so sweet and wonderful. One would think Dad leaving brought you closer?
    Hilarious strike through stuff about your husband! Delightful that you made your daughter laugh so hard! Great work advice about explaining why to do things. I remember in my high school job not following orders that I didn’t understand. (What a punk I was.) But when told why and it made sense, then I did them. (Again, punk teenager.) Your teenager job–oof! Soul sucking! People passing the phone to their toddlers, though… that’s hilarious and brilliant! I mean, it’s mean, but a great way to keep their toddler happy and occupied for a bit, so really, that’s amazing!
    Darn. I had a thought in response to pretty much every one of these, but I guess these that I’m remembering are the highlights.
    Also, in relation to your more recent post, I say again: please don’t leave me!

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  5. I reread so that I could say more. “Chapter 39: It could be worse.” Lol!
    I also grew up poor and am grateful now for that. It was good for us kids to learn to do without, to not need the newest whatever, to not be concerned about keeping up with others. I think I was in middle school when we got our first TV. Maybe high school for a microwave. I knew our family was weird. One thing I did always want, however, was a second bathroom. Ugh.
    “Parent. I sometimes forget I have to do that!” Samesies! And my oldest is 17!!! Sometimes, I’m like, where did these people come from?! 😉

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